Bring on the Rain

[SueS]

Hi Rob!!

You are right about the OW. Total MLC!! I think you were the one that pointed that out to me a week or so ago. I think you're right that neither my H or hers has any idea what she's thinking. She told her H that she didn't get home until 2:45 am the other night because she was sitting in a parking lot thinking and crying. In her state of mind, I tend to believe that. It appears that all of her friends aren't taking the high road on this. They're being a "friend" and listening to her and being sympathetic.....possibly even have met my H, but none are telling her that what she's doing is wrong. One of her friends told her H that......I know what OW is doing is wrong, but she's my friend and I don't want to hurt her. His response was...but what about the pain she's causing all these other people....her family & the family of the man she's involved with?

The more I detach from this whole situation, the more I see that I want to be out of the mess. I know that part of me will be in it because of D4, but I won't be tangled in as much as OW, my H and her H. I know it won't be perfectly easy, but I feel like I'll be able to start my life again, where as they'll still be dealing with so much else.

I also know what you mean about OW's H and his desperation. He had been working with another program. In talking to him, there's part of him that does see that he can't control her. But, he also told me that when he got home from Church on Sunday, he made a desperate plea to her.....all full of emotions....to stay and be a family. Not what she wants to hear. I did try a few months ago to tell him about DB. He didn't say much. It's hard not to devulge too much information to him, as he's putting a lot out there to me.

Thanks!!

-Sue