enjoying my picnic II !

[AliSuddenly]

I agree with Kalni, I think she meant, a little lighthearted exchanges between now and your visit, without overthinking it. Send him a song, or a picture, whether or not you think it may be "cool" or not. It will probably raise a smile, or his interest to just receive something. I would like that from a friend, I wouldnt "judge" them and think, thats not cool ! So maybe leaving it 4 weeks is risky if this eats into getting close to when you will be there.

I think you may have to be brave at some point soon and take the risk.. mention you will be coming to NYC and casually ask/say hey we could meet up? Becuase if you dont tell him, he wont know and if you dont ask, you wont know if he wants to meet or not and well.. unless you just drop into conversation you are visiting and dont add anything about meeting up the first time that you mention it.. see if he suggests meeting. But guess you will have to phone him (whose "turn" is it!?? I lost track)

You really do have a lot of strings to your bow, as the saying goes, so I think you should hold your head high and think he will want to meet you for coffee, whatever, when you are in NY.
Ali xxx