That's exactly what I'm doing now Annabelle. I couldn't agree more! I don't even think H would know what to do with D right about now. He doesn't know her school schedule or anything. It's sad, but his loss at the same time.
Jack named you fig. Let me just clarify. I don't have any issues with anyone UNLESS they resort to name-calling. That is very childish and then to go and try to pep up others is ridiculous. I don't get how some can be mean like that and then go off all happy happy. But regardless, that's their issues not mine. I know what mine are and have worked towards bettering myself.
Fig, don't be sorry. Like I told AB, maybe I can lose some serious weight now. (for real though, yea it's serious, but I've got to keep a positive attitude on it to keep me going).
Dar ~ If you really want to spank this monkey let's do it on your thread right now.
But do knock off the childish innuendo and fake sweetness.
Anyone that's been rolling with you for any length of time knows what your deal is.
If you insist on acting like a self-righteous jackass, do be prepared for the fallout.
And P.S. ~ THAT ^^^^^^^^^^^ is name calling.
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I've gotten it from you before Amy, you're the biggest one. I don't have fake sweetness, you just don't know me. But yes, respect others and bring it to my thread if you'd so like to.
You know what, Dar? You've got enough on your plate.
Perhaps you will make room for a bit of honesty with yourself but I seriously doubt it. My guess is you will milk this diagnosis for all it is worth and you will never miss an opportunity to make your husband feel that it's all his fault.
I have no regrets over anything I have said to you. I have spoken the truth and yes, at times it has been brutal but you are a brute of a woman, Dar.
Let's not forget that I have also laid my own story out on your thread and shared things with you that it HURT me to go over but I did it because you said my words and experiences helped you see clearer. Further, when I was absent from the board briefly, you expressed that you were GLAD I was back precisely BECAUSE you knew I wouldn't bullsh*t you.
The one thing I will gladly take back was saying I thought you had what it takes to "do" this. I believe that to have been an incorrect statement.
I don't believe you have the character, the self-awareness or the balls that it takes to walk THIS walk.
Not you Nutty. Definately not you. I'm not giving names because I don't want to start an online brawl. Those that have misnamed me know they have.
How are you doing today?
Oh that’s Ok, I was wondering if it was me thats all It is easy to say things on way on-line and for someone to read them differently. Yea, we need to support each other not indulge in brawling I agree.
I m so sorry to hear of your cancer.
One big fear in my life is, not so much getting ill, but concern about who will look after my son if I do. When I felt myself crumbling mentally due to my H behaviour it was my son who gave me the strength to get tough with my H.
Thinking of you.
Nutty.
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
I have had it several times here where people misread, but then it comes back that that's an excuse I use. So who knows. I don't really care about that right now in all honesty.
My D is what will mentally get me through this as well. I agree, our kids give us the strength to do things that they don't even know they're doing it.
Let me just clarify. I don't have any issues with anyone UNLESS they resort to name-calling. That is very childish and then to go and try to pep up others is ridiculous. I don't get how some can be mean like that and then go off all happy happy. But regardless, that's their issues not mine. I know what mine are and have worked towards bettering myself.
dar
not every sitch is the same, so our emotions and reactions cannot be the same.
It's very easy to visit your thread, get totally annoyed as it's always depressing, you apparently have not changed, grown nor listen to anyone who tries to give you advice.
I do remember oneday calling you many many names. I'd totally had enough of all about dar. There are so many people on this board who has problems, yet they can pull themselves up and find some humor, some joy, some GOOD in thier life.
You have a hard time with this.
A few weeks ago you mentioned a woman in your office telling horrible stories to get attention.
I sure hope your not doing the same.
I do have my doubts and I hate that they are there.....it would be horrible to make up something like that just to seek attention.
There is enough ugliness out there without doing something like that.
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Amy, you have been a HUGE help here and MANY MANY would agree to that for sure. I read SG's thread for you and that was VERY kind of her to do so.
I was pretty hurt though straight out being called a beotch by you but then you go and talk about God and being kind to others. It's like you follow one thing but do another sometimes and it's upsetting/confusing.
I find it VERY upsetting that you say I will use this cancer to my advantage and blame H for it. Please. It is no one's fault that I have this and as I've stated in this thread, my attitude will get me through this.
I am a strong person Amy and will get through this and my marriage regardless.
(for real though, yea it's serious, but I've got to keep a positive attitude on it to keep me going).
