"I'm feeling discouraged, because I had hoped that we would be able to work together to build a relationship in which we could both be ourselves, feel accepted and valued. I'm confused about how we can get there without some sharing of feelings. I'd really like to hear what's been working for you and what some of your goals are, even if you think I'm not going to like them."
If I can say this without crying (not likely) and end with a smile, we may be able to have some sort of conversation. Maybe spending more time on this board will help and I should just try that for a few days before taking any more relationship action. I am wondering, though, what the point of this is if this is how it's going to be.
