Fish, first you're telling Broken Tree you've got babes lined up for him and now you're coaching Minkerman out of fighting for his R! You've made your choice, now let others get on with saving their M's. Please just get off the BB for now, you aren't helping anyone here anymore. Stop trying to bring others down with you, start showing some of that integrity that you claim to value so much. Btw, this is my last post to you, I'm done wasting my time
I'm with whatisis, you've made your choice. Let others make their own choice.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
Because I don't do anything behind anyone's back I am posting exactly what I wrote when I notified the mods of fish's post to Minkerman:
"This is not a solution oriented post in my opinion. Fish's advice is deteriorating well beneath the theme of this particular board. He has now told 2 relatively new members of the separated forum to start dating. I think he is irresponsible, arrogant and juvenile.
I am requesting that fish be given a public warning to stay within the parameters of this board or risk being banned. I do not see this as censorship because I personally requested a couple weeks ago that he move to one of the divorced/divorcing boards as opposed to remaining here on Separated in light of his recent choices.
First off - I love that the mods and Amy are on the same side and it's about solution oriented stuff - just tickles me!
Fish - insane. Justifying your actions so you feel pleased. Messing up the relationship with your daughter because you're selfish. I finally, FINALLY figured out who you remind me of - yes. To a T! My ex. So selfish that he has put the relationship with his hussy cow before that of the one with his own daughter. Sorry pieces of S*H*I*T* IMO.
Makes me vilely ill. I hope your ex finds a good father figure for your daughter because she obviously needs one. How sad for her.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
This site is for trying to save a marriage.........
If you've moved on, that's great. But have the courtesy to not push everyone to the same place you are because it's best for you (or because you're convinced it is and not that you might be cheating on your wife!)
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
I would just like to suggest that those of us who are so inclined take a few moments to pray for Fish and his family. Obviously, he is a man going through an immense amount of pain and sees taking extreme and hurtful actions as the answer. It is hard to let yourself feel for awhile cuz it ain't pretty! Grief isn't easy. It is part of healing though and Fish is trying to bipass that to the detriment of himself and his family. I believe he's on the wrong track but will pray that he finds his way, for his and his family's sake.
Fish, If you come out of this without your daughter hating you, you've done alright, but I can GUARANTEE she'll hate the gf! That's very noble of the gf to offer to help you repair your relationship with your daughter, but who the hell does she think she is??!! She's the OW!! She should not come ANYWHERE NEAR your daughter!! And, if your gf is worth anything, she'll understand that you need time to be alone...in fact she should have told you that instead of stabbing her friend in the back...
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."