I see what you are saying. I know that they are not my choice to make. I suggest he spend time witht the girls and take medicine, most times he chooses not to listen anyways. How is that any different than him spending time with me? I can't force him to. I can ask him to, but ultimately he gets to decide what he wants to do.

I guess i'm just confused. I don't really see what i can do right now other than wait for him to do something. I can continue to go to my C (who is a MC normally and started seeing me for my M) and hope we wants to come one day. Should I say nothing when i see how he treats my girls or should i stand up for them like I do for myself. I'm all they've got. Do i stop caring when he's sick and not remind him to take his medicine?

I don't want to be disrespectful towards him. Things i say here may come across differntly than i say them with him because he doesn't hear everything that i'm thinking. What things do I take responsibility for and what things do i just drop. quite honestly, i don't expect him to do anything. I would like him to and I make ask him to, but I don't anticipate him actually doing anything.

In 4 weeks, i'm going to be bringing another little girl into this mess that i call my life. How long to i continue to let him choose to distance himself from us and just not care about anything before i have to look out for my girls? I can handle the crap he dishes out, but i can't handle him doing it to them...

right now, i feel like i don't even care what happens... \:\( i kinda feel like i've wasted the last 6 months trying to fix something that no one else cares about. i can't make him care and sadly, i don't expect him too... then again, maybe i'm just having a bad day. i dunno

Last edited by ann25; 04/22/08 06:15 PM.
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