I think it's always best to "go with what works /at the moment/", rather than "go with what worked last year".

Similarly, if he specifically tells you something is helpful... and his actions are matching what he told you... then why not keep giving him what he asked for?

Contrariwise, if his actions arent matching his words... how about telling him that?

in my opinion, open and up-front communication is always better than attempts at behind-the-back manipulation, when the communication lines are functional.


Last edited by Dom R; 04/22/08 05:58 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle