I know detachment is still important..but, here is the thing...I DO have expectations. Not expectations that everything will be fine, but expectations that he will do what he said. Is it not ok at this point to have some sort of expectations?
I TOTALLY understand what you're saying and how you feel. I really do, and yes, it IS ok to have some sort of expectations. You've discussed these expectations with your H, correct? So yes, it is on him to SHOW you that he's serious.
What I meant by having no expectations was to not expect things to change immediately. Don't be surprised nor discouraged much if he doesn't follow through in a timely manner to your liking. He may waffle every now and then as this seems to be common behavior for many WASs. I'm not saying this will happen with your H again. Just be aware that it could.
Again, watch his actions. They should help to determine whether or not he is sincerely making an effort towards rebuilding your R. When you look at everything (take stock) and know what you need to know, then you'll have your answer as to what you should do next. Move on with your H or move on without him.
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Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
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