thanks so much guys. the feelings come in waves. I don't know what hurts more, that he "fell out of love with me", broke up our family or is with ow. OR the way my daughter is sad.
But you're right I have to forgive now. It will be a weight off me. It's funny, he's been gone since yesterday morning and has called about 7 times ("just want to know how things are going over there"). I've only spoken to him once. The rest were messages.
But I don't want to live this way, analyzing everything he does and says. He made this decision, let him live his life.