Take a breath, take a walk and get some air........
I go to the mall and just walk when I can't stand it. Do not react!!!!!!
Confrontations are a backsliding special. I have learned in the works/doesn't work trials:
1. She is in charge. Don't mess with this. Seem happy with it and let her drive. She will ASK FOR HELP if she gets nervous.
2. I stopped calling and emailing my WAW 9 days ago and she now contacts me at least twice a day. I call/email back but do not initiate contact unless it's a kid issue. Again, let her come to you.
3. I stopped asking detials of where she was going, who with and when she would be home 9 days ago. She has only been out once since that time. (Was 2-3 times a week). I left the door open and she is staying in most of the time.
4. Don't push on money, guilt or dating. This is an immediate nasty reaction and D conversation.
5. Compilments and Cheerleading - no complaints.
Let us know how you are doing.
Thanks for coming over to check on me. Good advice eagle.
it appears that I have a weekly backslide that I like to do. I can't figure out why I do it? I guess I'm pressing for resolution, or trying to stop a train that's not stopping. or panicking.
I wish I was better at this. I wish I was better at my M.
