Fish, just to be above board, I have informed the moderator of this last post of yours. I believe your advice has become destructive and very self serving. I can't believe what you just wrote. I hope you will re-think your participation here. Now back to Broken Tree.
You post is mean-spirited and harsh -- and certainly NOT in line with Divorce Busting strategies. Your anger comes through loud and clear -- and your words are extremely harmful. Very BAD ADVICE.
You MUST clean up your act if you want to continue posting here.
I am doing fine. Accepting and detaching is very hard. There is only one person working on the relationship here and it can not go on forever. My Psyc said it is unhealth mentally to continue to put in an effort and get no response. If a women in NJ wants a D she gets one. It is that simple. I am sure her actions are some kind of revenge but what can I do about this? I am going somewhat dark and just staying out of her angry way. That is best for all involved. I love my family more and more everyday and want to do what is best for them for thier future and thier growth.
Your shrink is correct, it is unhealthy... if you don't detach somewhat. If you put your self worth etc into the success of your efforts, it is unhealthy. That's why GAL is so important, if you can workout, run or whatever else it is a great help too. Taking care of you is part of taking care of the R. Nice to hear you're OK.
You are right to step back from this . It will do you no good to keep trying to figure out what is going on. Get on with your life , stand up for your values , be consistant in your actions and find something for you , a challenge that you can set goals and feel good when you achieve them. Let your W be the one to wonder about you and look at the calmness you will portray from her crazy world. Perhaps then she may start to think.
