If I read your posts correctly, everything that you discovered was from OM1 and OM2 to your W, not from her to either of them
Mostly yes I guess.
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On OM1 and the bump... Forgive me if I missed something, but has the baby's paternity been determined? What I'm saying is - if he may be the father, then his interest in it is not surprising. In fact, I would be surprised if he was not interested
This is the key point as to why I dont want him near it, I am sure you can understand. He made a choice to not take responsibility for the unprotected sex. `cant give you what you (W) want` were his words. Fine... OK.... well p*#s off then!! I am of a mind now to not get the DNA test. For M to survive in my mind we have to leave this in the past and move on. If we do a DNA test and find out it is his, then it is physical proof that will be with me for the rest of my life that W cheated and carried another mans baby. I dont even know if I could feel the same about the child. You may think I am burying my head in the sand here, but hey if it works for ostriches!
You are right, I did not gain anything from the snoop, except a bit of heartache.
I will back off and let her choose.
Cheers
Steve
Me 27 W 30 M 2yrs/ T 5yrs Expecting our first child Sept 08 warning bomb (has feelings for someone) 21/12/08 I found out about OM (by snooping) 14/1/08 Living together.
