Finding DB late in the game #4

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I've been thinking about playing May pretty dim and want input as to whether or not it's a good idea. I know that when I was dim before, H definitely responded and it moved us a little forward. (That and my attitude towards things.) Part of me thinks it would be a good idea because we'd still have June before he'd have to pony up (or not) to Retro and we still have the apartment through the end of July. Perhaps he needs to see a little of what it will be like? I hesitated to do this before because of the kids, but it's been a few months and it wouldn't be such a shock to them now.

BUT, does it show that I'm not listening to him and trying to control the situation given that just last week he told me that spending time together as a family is helpful to him? How do I navigate this with a big part of me feeling that he needs to have a little more reality tossed in for him to make a good decision on us.