Hi Dom... for me, they both fit into both categories... not that I can't see what you are saying, but consider this...
I shouldn't have to tell him to spend time with me, because that's just part of deciding to get married and have a family and he should be doing it because he wants to.
It's not my responsibility to tell him to spend time with me, but if I want my M to be healthy and survive, i should.
I shouldn't have to tell him to tell him to take his medicine because that's just what you do when you are sick and he should be doing it because he wants to get better.
It's not my responsibility to tell him to take his medicine, but if I want him to get better and be healthy enough to function, I should.
To me, things that effect him, directly effect me. It doesn't matter if it's something like taking medicine or spending family time or going to MC or whatever. If i want things to happen, i HAVE to take responsibility for them, no matter how big or small.
Maybe I'm waaay off base, but to me, I technically don't have to be responsible for the things he chooses to and not to do; take medicine, see a dr, treat his daughters and wife better, but it's in my best interest to take responsiblity when he chooses not to. I was talking with some friends last night and i told them that i had to fold laundry when i got home. They said why don't you just leave it and see if he'll do it. I told them that I tried, i even asked for help, but it has to get done. Should it be my responsibility to have to take care of everything? NO. Should i have to? NO. Will I? yes, because someone has to. I feel that way about most of my M.
I guess I'm just frustrated with everything. I feel like this is too much work and I'm not getting anything out of it. Luckily, i'm patient and I know that things can get better. I just have to have faith and hope... thankfully, i do.
Tomato - Thanks for the support & encouragement!! I appreciate it.
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