Have to say, I think we both could pass for much younger, and that opens up some interesting questions. While I find younger guys attractive sometimes, after spending 20 or so years w/Ex (6 years younger) I am not very interested in being with anyone who doesn't have a certain level of maturity. I don't want to be the "smart one" or the one who "takes the lead" or ultimately "the mother".
I know what exactly what you mean. But I have also found out that age does not necessarily mean maturity... The X was 3 years younger. I rebounded with someone 15 years older - he was worse! I would prefer someone plus/minus 5 years. I have expanded that from plus/minus 3 years! LOL!
In my M, I too felt like I was the one that took the lead. I use to feel like The X needed me to expand his horizons - but I didn't get that back in return. I also felt like his mother at times... Not something I wanted or enjoyed...
I have no idea how it works - but I would like a more balanced R next time. Maybe where I take the lead in some areas and he takes the lead in others. I don't want to control/take the lead on everything - that is exhausting! I also want someone that I feel more grounded around - as opposed to more restless. Some people just have a calmer aura - and that is something I need b/c I tend to be a relatively restless person.
The X was actually a very smart man. That was one of the things that I was attracted to in the beginning. The problem was he was insecure and lacking in self esteem - so he couldn't see that. He needed to compete with me and put me down to feel better about himself.
Glad you enjoyed my TJ stories! LOL! That one fizzled as soon as I found out he was 31!
I am hoping someone my own age and single catches my interest soon... This drought has been going on much too long. There are times when I find myself wondering if my chemistry center has died.
