I think we are in a rut

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klm,

I am so happy for you as it seems you have been struggling with all of this with H for quite some time. My H and I have discussed starting to date again. We had a good past weekend together, but for some reason, he thinks that the feelings should just appear overnight to answer all of his doubts about us. I told him that there has been so much pain and hurt between us, that now that we are finally past that, we have to rebuild the friendship/love that we once had. We got in a txt convo that started to go bad last night, and he ended up saying something that was really uncalled for. I just wrote back "goodnight" at that point, instead of arguing back. He emailed me this morning and apologized for his attitude. I simply wrote back "no worries :)". It did bother me what he said, but with DBing, I realized that it wasn't a fight worth getting into and it was best to just end the conversation.

I don't know how to handle my family though... any suggestions on that?? My mom keeps telling me I need to shut him out of my life. She is like my best friend. I don't want to make her mad or hurt her feelings... any suggestions on what I can say. I feel myself getting pulled back and I know she is just concerned and wants to tell me how she feels.. ??????