I'm just going to throw this out - I have thought in the past that it would be great to have a "marriage sabbatical". Not a "separation", but time apart with the mutual, loving understanding that the core of the marriage is solid and that time apart (6-12 mos) is good for both partners and the marriage itself. For those of you whose WAS still seems to truly love you and miss you/the family, wouldn't it be better if your time apart could be reframed as something healthy and normal?
Interesting. I like the positive conotation this puts on the idea of separation. This seems like it is what my W wants out of the time apart. She doesn't want to get a D. She wants to use the time to work on our R. The only thing that muddies the waters for me at this point is that she suggested that I see other people. I can almost understand that. She tells me that she wants me to also be sure that she is the one for me, so she wants me to keep my eyes open. Not sure how healthy that would be at this point.
