Firstly, about the bump holding thing. I know a lot of people in the UK seem to think a pregnant woman's bump is public property. I used to have loads of people come up to me and want to touch or stroke my bump during all my pregnancies. I can remember being really taken back by it - especially in my first pregnancy. Mostly it was women, and elderly ones at that, who seemed to have this compulsion - but so did some men. My boss was especially touchy - he had six children of his own and he seemed to think nothing of it. Don't read too much into it.
Secondly, when the baby is born your W is going to be so busy with the baby and motherhood that any one who puts demands on her is soon going to get told what for. She will want those around her who support her, not those who need constant reassurance, so don't make OM out to be more than he is. He is not in the position you are in that he can offer your W the support and care she is going to need. It's easy for him at the moment to be there and offer encouragement etc as it doesn't cost him anything. He won't be there in the middle of the night when the baby wakes, he won't be there to help change nappies, he won't be there to rub your wife's back or take the baby for a walk when your W needs to sleep. He is NO competition at all. Don't let his apparent worth to your W at the moment eat into your feelings. He is a waste of space and time will show that. He cannot compare with you at all and I am sure your W knows that.
Don't let this get you down - you have been doing so well. So what if your W's ego needs these little boosts at the moment - she is pregnant and probably doesn't feel too attractive and so will take compliments from where ever they come at the moment. It won't last. YOU are her rock, and believe me, she knows that. OM1 and OM2 are not viable options.
Keep up that PMA.
(((((((HUGS))))))))
You are doing an amazing job. Be positive and believe in yourself. You are going to be a great dad.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
