I never looked at an EA like that TBH. Why, because to me it's nowhere near as bad as a PA. Yes, it has the danger of turning into that if it hasn't already, but until that happens (or I know for definite it has happened) I remain optimisitc it hasn't else I will probably crumble as you say.
My W is not a good liar in general and has either improved immensly in the last 6 weeks or has not met up with said man, but for 2 chance and the 2nd I'm convinced she didn't, but that's not to say she didn't meet someone else. However, for a change, her stories actually all add up.
I do keep telling myself through this, that what she really wants is me to be the person that fills the voids that I created, but she just got fed up waiting and grew more unhappy. I'm working on myself so much now and am sure I've seen some small changes being noticed but they could just be slips. either way, slips mean W has relaxed a little i guess.
It seems that we still have the same relationship, but for not physical side and the going else generally 1 night each at the weekend, nothing else really seems to have changed. We communicate more, we argue less and the home environment is less tense than it has been for months.
W asked me to book 2 weeks off during the summer holidays the other day too, nothing specific and I know it's to help with the boys, but at least that shows she is thinking ahead afew months doesn't it ?
