MLC BS

[Nutty Chick]

.My W called me tonigt and was pushing my buttons. She told me she wasn't going to pay her part of the mortgage anymore since she moved into the OM's house. Then she continued to go on and say that I was jealous because she was happy and I never made her happy.


it's almost like she is an evil witch trying to hurt me in every way she can......to start out she called me and told me how the kids weren't going to church Sunday because she wanted to take them to the beach with OM and his family and had to go on to tell me that her parents are going...like she s prposely shoving it in my face that they are accepting him....I am ready to explode!!!

Patrick,

You really need to protect yourself from this spew. Some DBers can take it. I for one couldn’t and went totally dark on my H. It really helped.

If it is hurting you and stopping you from healing and becoming strong after this shock then think about going dark and not being available to listen to her justifying her bad behaviour.

It certainly sounds like she is pressing your buttons trying to get you to retaliate and react. My H caught me out several time like this. He said and did things that he knew would trigger anger in me, when it did, he stood back and enjoyed the show. My anger and distress validated his decision to leave me and provided entertainment for him and OW.

I took control back and so can you. You choose what you want to listen to and how you react. If she calls to say she is taking the children to the beach instead of church, I would be tempted to say, hey that sounds like fun have a great time. She will do what she wants anyway. Take the wind out of her sails by saying or doing the total opposite to what she is expecting.

ragarding the house... all you can do is seek legal advice. I didn't have this situation to deal with but if she is threatening not to pay and you may lose your house, you need to seek legal help urgently.

You can get through this.

Nutty.