To agree to a D or not..... that is the question

[ACJ]

Thank you BM.
I am in the process of getting ready for work but will read the links later on today.

I stayed strong and S15 went to his dad's. I thought I would be upset but I wasn't. It's very ironic really b/c the short time H was here before they left we were talking like we used to, there was banter, there was laughing.

I laid down my boundaries for this work. I told them that I wouldn't allow either of them to freeze me out of S15s life. I told H that simply pressing yes to a read receipt on emails I send him was not good enough that I expect an answer. I also told him that I expect him to keep me as informed about S15 as I have for him. He agreed. We had spoken over the weekend about how his better R with S15 was adversely affecting the girls and I said S15 living with H had the potential to make this situation worse. I said it would be nice if he saw the girls at least once a week. Again he agreed but it remains to be seen whether he will or not. I am under no illusion. I got all these promises when he suggested a trial separation way back when he first left. They meant nothing then for all I know they may well mean nothing now. However, I am determined that I will stay in my S15s life. I reminded H that S15 had to be at school on Thursday night for the Sports Awards and he said he would be there. It even sounded like he might come himself (again we will see).

Whilst S15 got his final few things together H and I talked about simple things like S15s pocket money. It was a good convo. I'm not getting my hopes up in anyway, this was not about our M, it was just good to be able to talk to him in a non confrontational way. That has to be good for any R whether it be one within a M or one within a co-parenting framework.

I had to giggle b/c within 2 mins of leaving S15 was back. He had forgotten his toothbrush. It took him ages to get it b/c I bought them all new ones at the weekend and he hadn't noticed and didn't know which one was his (yuck )

About an hour later he was back again! This time to get his freeview box. I queried this b/c H doesn't have a TV. Apparently MIL has taken one round there. I said but your dad doesn't have a TV licence. He said he is thinking of getting one. GGGrrrrrrr. I'm sure MIL had her 'mother' hat on thinking how could she help HER son to smooth things over with her grandson. What she wasn't thinking about was ME and how I don't want him to get comfortable I want him here where he belongs.

I've not said this to anyone else BUT I am not comfortable with my son living in a house where there is blatant immorality.