Before she left, i think my wife (mistakenly) thought I would divorce her if I found out the truth about her relationship with OM #2. That probably played some small part in her moving out when it was uncovered.
I think my feelings right now, are at least halfway the way they are, because I think she's trying to make this latest "friend" the justification to herself for finalizing the divorce, and the various other things she's doing right now.
She still says she's not planning to finalize it. But she said she wouldnt do a lot of other things in the last 3 years, too. Her actions didnt match up with her words.
Right now, her actions are speaking a whole lot louder than her words. Hanging on to a pending OSC for support, when I'm already informally paying her more than she would get. Trying to get me to buy her out of our house when the reasons she claims she "needs" the money now, are bogus. Plus this whole "pulling back" thing.
It's just screaming to me, "her actions arent matching her words; she's setting things up to hit you again".
She served me with D papers, when OM #3 got big, and she wanted to be 'free' to pursue him. So my scars are telling me #6 could be motivation for finalizing things. If she does, I'm sure she'll claim "IT'S NOT ABOUT HIM!!!"
Just like #3 wasn't the reason for serving me, and #2 wasnt the reason she moved out.
Wonder if it's going to be 5 years, or 10 years, until the "love high" hormones wear off enough for her to look at her actions, and her life, clearly again.
Dammit, i cant sleep again.
Last edited by Dom R; 04/22/0806:16 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
