I feel like I should give B space to make the next call/contact. Wait at least 3 weeks, even 4. He might be counting the interim between calls, and want to do the same interim as me... at least.
*However*, I need to start making plans for my trips to DC/NYC/Boston. I will definitely be in the NYC area the first 2 weeks of June. There is a possibility, but no guarantees, that he will be there for part/all of that time. It is possible I could be there the third week of May, and the 3rd week of June as well.
how long do I wait? Ideally I would like to give him space to make the next call and have 2-3 more conversations before I even mention that I am going to be in NYC. Then, if he doesn't ask to see me, the next conversation I will ask to see him. But I also want to give him enough "advance notice" so he has a couple weeks to get ready.. not like, hello, I'm in your city, do you want to meet tomorrow??
When I bring it up, should I ask to meet him early in my visit, so if he wants to meet again, we can meet again later in my visit? OR, do I tell him the maximum amount of time I'll be in NYC, including the time I'm not planning to be there, but just could be there, to maximize the chance that we can meet up, since I have no idea what his plans are?
I have to laugh at myself too, b/c here I am agonizing over this elaborate plan, but I have to realize that I need to be flexible and ready to change the whole plan to adapt to the world around me which is constantly changing!!
Otherwise... had a great cello lesson, saw two friends do a joint cello recital which ROCKED, made a bunch of muffins for a concert I played yesterday with all of the cellists performing en masse, worked out today for 55 minutes of cardio... working on my new wardrobe... full of HOT 180 outfits!!! And I had a great conversation last night with my brother. It fills my heart with joy b/c during the whole R crisis he and I became VERY estranged, but now we are reconnecting. *happiness* The same thing is happening with my Mom, for some reason we can really connect when we talk about food (the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, she is an amazing cook) so I am trying to do MORE OF WHAT WORKS with that. She and my Dad are in Ireland now for a week... I am jealous, they get to adventure in the UK!! just an island away from OD and Ali!!
I'm sorry this is so long!!!
I hope you all are having beautiful evenings, OR sleeping peacefully like logs!!!!
to adapt to the world around me 