I think some men see it as a weakness when they are ill and dont want to make a "fuss" and dont want others to make a fuss either as this only highlights their predicament. My BF was certainly like that. Even now he has depression he doesnt like to mention it!
I think you may be right about that where a lot of men are concerned. My uncle even explain it to me in much the same way. However, with my H, it is wierd b/c he acts mad if I show any concern for him and he doesn't act that way toward anybody else. I have told him that, and asked why, but got no answer. I don't know what to do, so most of the time I just leave him alone. He is old enough to know when to take his medicine, etc. but like this morning, he kept laying in there coughing his head off and finally I asked him if he had taken his medicine and he said, "Not yet". Well....duh....why not? What is he waiting on? It drives me nuts. I would like to show him that I care about his health and I have asked him not to keep it a secret from me when he is not well....but he does. I worry about his heart, etc. b/c he covers it up and won't talk to me. He is working less and less b/c he can't do hold out to do the physical labor any more. But, he won't discuss it with me. So, I appear like I don't care....but I do and it makes me sad that he won't discuss it with me. He has always been that way and I don't know what to do to change it.
Thanks for coming by my thread. It has been pretty slow. I haven't had many peope to drop by, so I just go out to other forums and visit people there. I don't know if I can help anyone, but I would like to.
Take care.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
