I'm Finally Ready to "Drop the Rope"

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FA,

I think there comes a time for a R talk and I think you are there. I think it was good, H told you some things he needs from you, it seems from his point if view that he's trying and not seeing any change from you. Be the first one to say ILY a few times, see what response you get from H. Don't always be the first one to say it though.

I like your fire analogy, my sons were in Boy Scouts and I was Scoutmaster for a while. We had some good campfire lighting ceremonies. One we had a model rocket engine fastened to an arrow, guided by a wire to the fire. Inside the pile of wood was a styrofoam cup filled with black powder and a flare. Inside the cup was an igniter, when the arrow "flew" into the wood, we set off the igniter, lighting the black powder and flare and set the wood on fire. The wood did have some magic juice on it.

These days I'm letting my W lead on where we go from here. No talk from me about getting back together. We have spent quite a bit of time together getting the house ready to put on the market. I have caught her staring at me when we are sitting in the living room together. I haven't said anything or let her know I have noticed. My atty said at court that this is the friendliest D he has ever been involved in, then he looked at my W and said are you sure the two of you can't work it out?

I think one thing she needs to experience is the loneliness, right now she is living with D24, D's boyfriend , our grandson and D19 is down there more than she's with me. Alot going on all the time. Someone around to talk to all the time.

Mike