Totally Lost after 23 years

[FaithfulH]

Okay, a twist in the story. My D20 is coming home from college and she and W are planning to go to a concert on Mother's Day - W suggests bringing her mom and my mom! What does this mean? Maybe nothing, just trying to stay friends with MIL, means a lot, as MIL needs to travel a distance to get there, means a baby step or no step. My parents said if they do come up, they will stay in a hotel, I said NO WAY, S19 will stay in the office and they can have his room. It may be a little different, but that is what happens.

What do you all make of this???

CBK,

Since you asked....What I make of this is YOU NEED TO DETACH!!!!!!! Come on CBK? Didn't you read DB? What part of giving your W space/time did you not understand? Would your behaviour have been attractive when you were courting your W many years ago? Of course not, and it isn't now either! I know you are coming her for support.....but, wouldn't it be more productive if your posts were about YOU....what are YOU doing?...not about your W. For now, assume she is on a LONG trip to a distant country! While she's "away", why don't you work on being a better you?

I thought about you...and me...when I heard this song today by Tristan Prettyman whose chorus goes "If you really love me, when you see me leaving just let me go":

Madly, Madly, Madly

I'm not surprised that you still call
I'm not surprised
I'm more surprised that I don't answer
Pick up the phone to call you back
Pick up the phone to call you back
Ain't it funny how things work out like that

Cause the time that it takes to open my eyes
Is the time that it took me realize

Madly madly madly
Well tell that you need me
Show me im the only and thats all I need to know
Madly madly madly
Well if you really love me
When you see me leaving
Baby just let me go

Well I've been good, no ive been great
You say you're in a better place
And honestly I might be for ya.
But theres a tone in my voice that gives away my selfish choice
Could my heart beat any faster?

Cause the time that it takes to pass me by
Is the time that it took me to realize

Madly madly madly
Tell me that you need me
Show me I'm the only and thats all I need to know.
Madly madly madly
Well if you really love me
When you see me leaving baby
Just let me go

We give it up, try to find what was with us all the time
Gotta lose some things if you're ever gonna get on by
And who was wrong who was right?
Always end up in a fight
I thought I won, but now I find....

Madly madly madly
If you really love me when you see me leaving
Just let me go
Madly madly madly
Well tell me that you need me
Show me I'm the only and that's all I need to know know know know
Madly madly madly
If you really love me, when you see me leaving
baby just let it go no
Madly madly madly
Tell me that you want me
when you see me leaving, just let me go.