How do you know it is "crap"? If you are so averse to (or close-minded about) other spiritual practices or a belief system other than the one you follow that it makes you physically ill, then that is probably a good sign that you will be incompatible. Right?
If you can take an interest in the things that have meaning and value to her, then that is an R that has respect and some potential. Maybe her interest in Wicca is part of the foundation for what you see as her turn-around.
I can't say not to judge it, because I honestly know in myself that I would not be interested in exploring an R with someone whose religious/spiritual practices were very different from my own. But - I'm UU, so there's a lot of latitude there! In my case, I would probably not be interested in someone who is very conservative. Or, at least, I can't imagine it - but then I see how many interfaith marriages there are, so I challenge myself to be open-minded.
As suggested by Lifebeginsagain, you have to figure out for yourself how much latitude you have within your own values and where this R (or potential R?) fits into your values. At the very least, it sounds like you can now have a true friendship with your x and the mother of your child(ren). That is something to be grateful for. . . .
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now
