>>I swear that my stbxh is beyond crazy some days. This week he can't wait to get rid of me and has reverted back to blaming me 100% for our failed marriage. He had the nerve to tell me that I was crazy to think that we were 50/50 at fault cuz it's ALL me!! WTH is that???<<

Of course he has to do that. The guilt would overwhelm him. You have to emotionally DETACH. Sheesh!! Just smile and agree. It's when you disagree that he's going to fight with you and create drama so this whole thing is easier for him. Gosh, I just verbally agreed with every crazy thing my husband said during the D and it completely deflated his balloon. At this point you have to stop caring WTF he says and thinks.... but I do understand that's difficult. Emotions tend to flare....

>>Unfortunately, he is no now refusing to move his stuff out.. advised that the courts will see it as abandoning his house/child, etc. So, he stays over a couple nights a week.. Nothing I can do about it right..<<

Not too much. You can be helpful and box the stuff up so he has it ready to go (and so you can get him out as quickly as possible...but don't present it that way! ;\) ). Also, give him the junk you were given for wedding gifts etc... Let him have the memories. I also got copies made of the home videos so my husband would have those memories too....

>>Can someone remind me again how resilient kids are????<<

That's a fallicy people created so they don't feel so guilty about choosing to be part-time parents.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.