Sara, been thinking about you. You are doing everything you can. I was soooo in your shoes last summer, not ready to see a L, H refusing to budge. Our only difference is that H confessed his A to me (after gaslighting me a bit). Its a hard place. You will be fine, you will stay afloat. Cry, sleep,eat, rest, take care of yourself. Going dark is a safe thing for you.