Yeah, i probably need to drop the rope. I shouldn't have to tell him what needs to be done around the house. I shouldn't have to force him to take medicine or go to the Dr. I shouldn't have to tell him how to treat his daughters. I shouldn't have to tell him that his family needs to come first. I shouldn't have to do a lot of things that i do... i think we already talked about this
whoah there.... you're mingling two very different things.
"you shouldn't have to" (with the inference that those things should happen anyway) vs
"It's NOT YOUR JOB/RESPONSABILITY!!!"
Compare and contrast:
[.....] tell him to spend time with you
[.....] tell him to take his medicine
One of these starts with "you shouldnt have to ..."
One of these starts with "it's not your responsability to ...."
Two completely separate categories
I think it could be helpful to you, to more clearly identify what things in your life that bother you, belong in which category.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
