Hello Mr. MLC part quatro...

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let's say I break off my affair...should I then give into H's requests for sex even though what he is doing is cheating on his gf?
------->NO. This is the part where I said you need to have more self respect. If I knew my husband was having an affair, I would in no way allow myself to sleep with him.

This is a puzzling issue to me. I can't see how there are people on here that have their H's or W's living at home with them all the while having a gf or bf on the side that the spouse at home knows about.
---------->I don't know who on here that is doing that, but it's never acceptable.

Wouldn't I be giving H his cake AND letting him eat it too like so many of these others on here are doing?
------->that is exactly what you would be doing.



MMB-

1) You need to tell your husband that any type of re-conilation will ONLY be considered when he finds another place to live and stops his affairs. You deserve that. If he refuses to do that, you then know exactly where you fit into the equation and you move on with your life- but do so without having another man. Yes, you are lonely- every one is. That's where you pick up a hobby, you find friends that you need to reconnect to and you spend time with "you".

2) If he refuses to give up the affair at that point YOU ONLY have discussions with him in regards to the kids. You stop allwing the coffee treats, the peck on the cheeks, the kisses on the lips. He is having his cake and eating it too when he does that. Sure, it feels wonderful, but in the end... where are you? Still seperated.

For pete's sake.. the man IS taking a vacation and you are holding on to the shred you two will be back together one day. I understand how that would feel- but until you take a self assessment of you- you won't be able to move on.

I don't think this has ever been answered and I know it's been asked multiple times- DID YOU GET PAPERS?