My last thread is locked so am starting another. Good timing I guess b/c I just ended the play today as well. I'm a little sad as I was hugging all my new theatre friends today and it was a little sad to have the play be over, but I am also happy that I will have some time to sleep & clean & spend more time with the kids! I am probably going to job-hunt in a week or two for a part-time job.
H has been very nice to me the last 2 days saying things like I'll do plays in the future with my theatre friends, and he knows how sad it was to end a play (b/c he did one last year also with the same people). He sent me a few friendly emails this week. He's been great taking care of my D8 these past weeks also. We're still separated, but he has been very nice this past week. He had told me last week that he realizes he was stressed out during the play and it made things seem horrible (I guess meaning our marriage and/or me) and that is of course when he started his PA. I am thinking that means he is now not viewing our marriage and/or me in as negatively as he was last year? But anyway his recent friendlier attitude to me has been nice!
I think I will maybe work backstage & on the sets on some of the plays next year, and maybe try out for 2 of them and so do one or 2 plays next year if I can get a part. It was fun but it will be fun to have free time, watch TV, read, and all the other things I haven't had time for! I think I might look into a dance class to keep in shape also! Dancing is really great exercise I found out!!! Hope everyone has had a great weekend also!!! Karen
Karen, glad to hear that things went well with the musical. Seems like things are getting a little bit better with your H. Nothing really going on with my H since big fight last Tuesday. Oh well, maybe tomorrow will bring something new (in a good way!) kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I am getting a little nervous about my H. Maybe I shouldn't be? He has been friendlier to me the last 2 weeks, spending a lot of time with D8 while S14 & I were at the theatre. He is wearing the cross with the serenity prayer (started wearing that about 2 weeks ago). H seems to definitely be reconnecting with the kids who he had stopped being much involved with the past year and making real effort to spend time with them.
H just emailed me that he was going to come visit the kids Tues and Wednesday. Yesterday he said he would come one of the nights but now wants to do both. He also said he wants to take the kids for a 1st sleepover Sat. night & take them to our old church Sunday which is near where they will be staying (church and apt. are in the same town) and I am assuming this is at his friend's house where he stores some of his stuff & not the OW's. I am nervous what all this means & not thrilled about letting the kids have a sleepover, but realize this could be positive changes so I'm wondering what others think about this stuff? Does anyone have any ideas about all this? Karen
I would definately figure out WHERE the sleepover would be, and make sure its known OW will be nowhere around. After that is talked about, I would let him do it. Its wonderful he is reconnecting with the kids!!!! He probably misses watching them sleep and waking up with them, I know my H does.
Great job on the play, making new friends, GAL. Your H very obviously noticed this. Good thing! Bittersweet ending, huh?
I hope he realizes that would be inappropriate to have the OW around when we are still married, but then again sometimes H acts crazy so who knows? I will have to find out about that def.!I'm very glad he is reconnecting with the kids, but nervous about the whole sleepover of course.
I think even a blind and deaf man would have realizes all my changes in the last 5 months!!! So he definitely has; however it doesn't seem to have affected him much other than a bit friendlier, but still a bit distant and detached with me. (I think he is still seeing the OW so am not too surprised about that!)
It is bittersweet the play ended, but I do plan on hopefully being in at least one this next year and maybe working behind the scenes on some of them also. So I will still keep in touch with my new theatre friends and keep myself busy! Karen
I'm about to go see my C. I realized that with H spending tonight & tomorrow night with the kids. He also goes out Thurs. with his guy friends, and wants to have the kids again Sat. night for the sleepover. That leaves one night available for OW--it seems like that relationship might be cooling off or in a fight or something I would think. When H was living here he was usually at OW's or texting her, so it seems like that has changed maybe. I can't imagine if they are happily together, the OW would be happy with one night a week like that so have to wonder what is going on. H is planning on going to church this week which he hasn't been doing, wearing a cross, etc. I am curious what is going on but of course I won't ask!!! Karen
I saw my C today. She asked me about how I can keep feeling happy & no longer depressed. I was telling her I think it is important for me to keep busy, see/talk with friends, etc. I had a little sadness when the play ended but it lasted about a day not for months like in the past.
My C thought it was great my H wants to spend a lot of time with the kids & the sleepover Sat. I emailed H that his plans are great with me & he emailed me a happy reply. C had also said I should have a talk with H about the OW not being around the kids. I asked her to clarify and discuss that with H when she calls him this week as she had wanted to talk to him about the kids & their therapy.
When my C asked the same of her H he apparently went right out and introduced the OW in their case to the kids (out of spite or something? or didn't want to be controlled?) and she says her ex has expressed regret over the way he acted. I thought it would be better coming from the kids' C (advice about OW) than me b/c he will think I am just being jealous or spiteful or controlling or whatever and obviously the C has no agenda like that, so I think that will be good. Karen
I am probably going to job-hunt in a week or two for a part-time job. 
Karen