Day 1 of going dark has gone OK so far. H called 4 times this afternoon (twice at my office and twice on my cell). I didn't answer the phone when he called. When I got home he had left a message at home too. (that is 5 total calls) D2 used to take dance on Tuesdays at 10am. H wanted to know if I would be able to take her to dance tomorrow since it is his day to have her. That was weird because he has had her twice before on Tuesdays and never even mentioned dance. I didn't want to call him, so I texted him that D2 was out of dance for the Summer. He just responded with "OK". I find it odd that he was concerned about the dance class when he hasn't been the past several weeks. Weird. Anyway, I felt pretty good about not answering the phone. It felt like I had some of my power back. Up until now, H has been holding all the cards. I have had very little leverage at all. I like feeling like I can be in control of something. For now that control is in DBing and going dark. It feels good.
