H4H - is good to see your sitch is showing sign of improvements - it gives me a lot of strength, and this is what this forum is about. I hope I am going to be able to post some good news too.
At today the situation is very bleak. W said she wants to move S6 to a private school near her job (and OM house) because she says S6 doesn't like the after school program - I stormed because we really like the school where S6 is now, and that would make it very hard for me to pick him up, like I always do. I implied she was think about this because of OM and that she is planning to move there
She said that she is not planning to move there... YET, and that OM anyway checked the public schools and they are very good(?). This kind of conversation made me sic - I mean - this is FAST - I asked if she is sure about something like this! - And she answered that OM is a VERY special guy, he came from a poor and nonsupporting family but he climbed is way up, he is also giving back a lot to the community, after he graduated he gave his first wage in scholarship to help less fortunate kids. He is also good looking and athletic - he has been single for sometime and now at 47 he wants a family (mine), he would me very supportive of the kids, not a father but more like an uncle to be buddy with. They also thought about a startup together - something nonprofit to help others. I was devastated I felt I lost my family for good - I told her that this news made me very sad, I knew we cannot be married, and we have to move on with our lives, but I had the secret dream that maybe in 5 years o so, when our lives were different, we could reconnect like H and W, but now I know she was gone for good. She said not to run too much with my imagination, that the guy is not perfect and she is worried about the 12 years difference of age - and "other few things" but she admires the guy a lot and she is taking a step at the time.
I don't know how I am going to pull this out. I think they are going to tide the knot as soon the divorce is final - or maybe move together even before that. I am on a slippery slope with banana peels as shoes.