Still in love and struggling

[Wide_awake]

Dudes, what happened to my post??

I couldn't agree more with you and I'm saddened today to say that I now have confirmation that my wife has not been trying like she claimed to be.

She confirmed that she has been having an affair or shall I put it as she did. "I have what I always wanted with you. To be everything to someone and have that someone feel I am everything for them."

She then went on to say that she had that but the other person no longer feels that way. But, that doesn't change how she feels about us because (I'm guessing here) based on what I heard in her voice today, she thinks that that was the real deal and our marriage isn't and will never be.

This happened at work and we both agreed it wasn't the time for the conversation, so I have no details. More questions than answers.

But, how do I proceed from here? Any advice out there?

I knew this was happening in my heart. I just didn't snoop because I wanted to be honorable and in all honesty, I didn't want to know. I wanted to believe she was being honest and faithful. I wanted to beleive she cared enough about me to wait.

I was so wrong.

She works pt where I work and she just walked in and over to me. And what do I see when I look at her? I wasn't even angry. The hole in my heart is growing by leaps and bounds but when I look at her I see the beautiful woman I love more ever.

Help??!!??!!