Finding DB late in the game #4

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#3 Did I find DB too late? Maybe not

Hi Hound, you locked up my thread.

Things are OK. Not bad. We've had a few good conversations and I've kind of laid out a few things that I need that he's responding to. Put a deposit down on Retro, for instance. While he hasn't said he'll do it, he was down with me signing up for it and last weekend I told him I need him to go. I didn't ask him for an answer, but I was telling him what I need. Bottom line, he's still confused. He sees me making changes and becoming a better person and he hopes to do so himself. Will that be enough to make him come back and want us to work? He honestly doesn't know.

One difference for me is that I now kind of have a mini-deadline in my head. That's July 10. Either we will be going to Retro (which I know isn't a cure-all, but probably is something that really could give us the best chance) or he won't go. If he won't go, I'm completely dark. Our lease is up July 31st. I told him I want him to move back Aug 1st, that I wasn't in any rush in the meantime.

So, for the next few months it's DBing, validating, PMA, acting as if, continuing the 180s and GAL. That's all I can do. He has to do the rest inside that silly little head of his.