I think the separation can be good sometimes. Like I have said before, without it I couldn't have truly detached...and I believe H and I would be in a totally different place right now.
With that said....I think I fell into a trap of H and I being too good of friends if that makes sense. He was getting all the benefits of marriage without any of the responsibility. Let him miss you.
You sound like you are ready for this and you have a gameplan. ((((Abbey))))