The whole thing gets complicated because he wants... I mean *really* wants to be friends. Go out once a week... see a movie etc. Phone calls etc. Basically now I have to be the person he'd be a total imbecile not to want to be with. Means making ME the best I can be. (I'm loving these ADs ... haven't cried at a sad song in a week!)
Mine came out (finally) and said this is because of the way I've treated him in the last 4 years. (He's revised history... I'll spare ya the gory details) :)... suffice to say he wants to be treated nice... Ok... this I can do. 180s, (he's got no idea what's coming down the pipe at him in the 180 dept). He'll get the "old"... but "new improved" Abbey. And friend ya want... the friend ya get! Also... someone said here... I'll have rules too... I want this to be the opportunity to MAKE the relationship back into what it should have been before we screwed it up. No more lazy sliding on nurturing us etc.
He also has a book to "read"... I'll know what I"m up against, if he reads it or not. I"m NEVER going through this heart break ever again. When I'm confident (which comes and goes *smile)... I know that we have to earn back each other.
Abbey
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
180s, (he's got no idea what's coming down the pipe at him in the 180 dept). He'll get the "old"... but "new improved" Abbey. And friend ya want... the friend ya get! Also... someone said here... I'll have rules too... I want this to be the opportunity to MAKE the relationship back into what it should have been before we screwed it up. No more lazy sliding on nurturing us etc. 