Don't forget too... your H is in total selfish, confused state. OW, erratic behavior is all part of the pot we find ourselves in. My point... They do and say dumb things,... waffling on no contact with the OP is also part of the same pattern of bizarre behavior perhaps in your case. (I even fully expect mine might hop the fence for a while again too when I'm gone)... if so... LET it happen. That's what I decided to do. Hard as it might be... can't make em do something or stop doing something they get their minds set on.
Mean time.... Go dark and let him self destruct. Try to become and be the person that he'd be an UTTER fool and idiot not to want to be with. Abbey
I think this is great advice! And I'm having fun becoming & being the person that my H would be a fool or idiot to not be with me. Everyone tells me they think H is crazy or an idiot (OW is married, 2nd or 3rd marriage with dysfunctional kids too) and I have to wonder if my H thinks so too sometimes! Most men if they could choose between us wonderful spouses here on this board or a messed-up, dysfunctional OP I think would choose us!!! So I think they are kind of crazy!!! Karen
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