I think she's back

[Abbey]

Sara,... watch too for "info sessions" at local libraries and what not. Some firms have these sessions to gain clients and it doesn't cost you anything to go listen. Not to mention, it'll get you out of the house for a while, while you're in dark mode. Check out some of the freebie newpapers that all cities seem to have now... you might find some "Free" consult type things.

Don't forget too... your H is in total selfish, confused state. OW, erratic behavior is all part of the pot we find ourselves in. (Mine actually asked me if I wanted go to the bar where the man he accused me of sleeping with, was working last night on the way home from the movie. - hell I swear sometimes he forgets he has asked for this stupid separation, but I digress.) My point... They do and say dumb things,... waffling on no contact with the OP is also part of the same pattern of bizarre behavior perhaps in your case. (I even fully expect mine might hop the fence for a while again too when I'm gone)... if so... LET it happen. That's what I decided to do. Hard as it might be... can't make em do something or stop doing something they get their minds set on.

Mean time.... Go dark and let him self destruct. Try to become and be the person that he'd be an UTTER fool and idiot not to want to be with. I've mixed a little bit of another "program" with the DBing and it's seemed to help in my case,... Staying out of the bed might be something you can change your mind about later... just don't accuse... collect data and verify. And just remember, many of us think our spouses need a 2 x 4 smack across the head too. *smile*

Hang in there.

Abbey