Patience is key

[addie]

Thanks Stella, Eagle.
I know I have to focus on the positive babysteps and there have been many. I am feeling discouraged though with all his confusion. I even had the urge to call him today to tell him not to stay over again unless he had made a decision about working on the M. I know - don't do it!!!
Eagle, you are very right - the physical intimacy is not a good idea right now and I told myself I wouldn't allow it to happen until H told me he wanted to work on our marriage again. I'm glad it didn't happen because it would only complicate things by driving him right back into his tunnel. He was fine yesterday, in fact, less distant than the previous day. I didn't want H to think I was rejecting him from the previous night because I know he was wanting s*x. I would have been happy with cuddling. I guess I should be content that he is choosing to sleep in our bed again.
Yesterday H met us at church, did his own thing in the afternoon but said he'd like to play with S later on. He came over while S and I were out at a boat show - this surprised H. H went for a cycle (still has his bike here) while we were out. When we got back he took S to the park to play baseball. He had dinner with us, did some work on an assignment and left at 10 p.m. I really didn't expect him to stay.