Cat, the legal papers are already negotiated, thankfully.

Because of the situation of the house we're in (needs a renovation done to it that can't be done with all kind of extra furniture in it etc, plus the business aspect of this... I'm the one who's got to leave.) I don't want to... and frankly,... I would have made him leave... however, he is going to have his hands full and this way I have the ability to do "acts of service" (the yard/garden is going to overwhelm him).

I don't plan to be gone long if I have anything to do with it. (Have a few more arsenal ideas I"m working on - more 180 stuff - based on some things he's said and done over the last 2 months).

Yes, he still thinks we may not get back together,... but now hasn't closed the doors, has said so ... and IS in friendship mode. He even went so far as to say he wants to see the changes in me where he can step back abit etc. Since I went on ADs - I'm able to keep much calmer about his utterly confused and mixed signal messages etc. (He said that we're doing good in the friend dept yesterday - so that's a good step). And considering how relaxed he was last night, seems we're making baby steps \:\)

Really what's going to happen after I leave is the test. The first month will tell how long or short this thing will take before we're back under the same roof. Obviously I"m worried about what "friends" means in the context of all that has been talked about and hashed over etc. But I asked him this question... what do you think friends means?... You gonna phone me on the night I move?

He smiled and said... of course... Friends phone each other.

*head hits desk*

Frankly he's just horribly confused about his feelings because of some of the things that have happened in the last 6 months. I used the analogy breadcrumbs. Now I have to show him that he'd be crazy not to want me back with him... and as Michelle said, he has to miss me. He wants a friend by god... he'd going to get one. \:\)

Another aspect of this that Michelle mentioned is that in their minds... they *have* to see these things through. Even if he was having second doubts right now... he'd still need to make this play out.

I have to take this as an opportunity to NOW make our friendship and then relationship into what we both DREAMT it was going to be... and wanted it to be. I have even said that at various times in the last 2 weeks and considering some of the things he's volunteered like "we're doing good" etc... I'm going to assume I'm on the right track with laying out "the path of breadcrumbs" that shows him what we can have.

Lots of work... \:\)

Abbey





Last edited by Abbey; 04/21/08 05:51 PM.
T:22, M:20
H:55 Me:45
H-OW PA: N/07
OW Jan08
Bomb:Feb/08
S: Apr/08
Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11
Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess.
Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.