who pays the majority of the bills? you, correct? then you have the authority to tell him to leave and give him 2wks to get his crap out of your house! I'm sorry you are in this hell Star)))))))))))))) I remember being there just this Jan, finding out about H still pursuing ow, the hurt, the anger.
Tell him that you guys need to separate until he cuts off all contact with ow and he is ready to really work with you on the M. If he can't afford it is not your problem (your H is eerily similar to my stbx, asking for stuff he isnt' entitled to just because he needs it and is in bad shape financially.)
He is using you until he gets on his feet and goes on his merry way (hugs, dinner, BTDT) the guilt and the covering of tracks, that is what could be happening here with his little gestures. Going dark on him will just give him license to do whatever he wants without being accountable to you since you won't be talking to him. It is not your problem if he has no $$ to live on his own, let him sleep on a friends' couch, whatever.
The bs excuses he gave you are JUST like the bs I got when stbx was with ow, like, when he actually wanted me to believe he had 2 phone plans...on the same phone.
Anyways, hon, again, I'm so sorry, I wouldnt' wish this agony on anybody, hang in there gal)))))))))))))))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
