Per DR, I know I'm supposed to "ask for what I want", but how do I do that without sounding like an ungrateful nag?
Use "I" statements and try to stay away from blame.
Say,
"I would really really appreciate it if I could get a little help picking up the den tonight. That way we could spend a little more time together later."
Instead of,
"You never help me do anything. You need to pick up all your crap out of the living room."
One is definitely ungrateful nag, the other is nice wife making a request.
then be sure to notice when he does help and thank him for it.
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
