Matilda, I think you're right about her wanting recognition from this instructor.
My W made the comment that I have some influence over how people perceive her in class. I have the power to share with others how helpful she is to me as a dance practice partner. I have the power to create an impression of how much or little I value her partnership in class, by how I treat her.
I think she's right. I will draft and send an email to the instructor letting her know about our practice history and habits. I think I'll avoid getting into the incident last week, and let it pass. I'm the one who has rapport with the instructor at this time, so will use my influence to help her feel more comfortable with the group.
We spent a fair amount of the weekend playing Scrabble.
She made an interesting comment recently. She said that she used to think that she wanted to be taken care of by an older man, but now realizes that they don't have the energy to do the things she likes to do. I didn't respond, but made a mental note.
I'm still asking acquaintances if they know anyone trying to quit smoking. I recently asked the grocery clerk, at the store where I shop weekly. I keep thinking a smoking cessation partner would be a good fit for her. She won't do it by herself. She would be more likely to partner with someone, than attend a support group or quit by herself. I'll keep asking for help.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
