You are so correct that my h did come and go many times and continued to self medicate with the ow. It took almost 2 years for him to finally hit bottom and seek C. That started his journey back up from the pits of he11.
I did notice that when me h was coming and going, each time there was more improvement in him. I was like the Super 8 hotel, I left the light on for him! Sometimes I didn't know if I was doing the right thing but as it turned out it was the right thing for my sitch.
