Based on the Love Language book it is acts of service and words of affirmation that moves her. She likes that I help around the house and she likes it when I tell her how sexy smart and funny she is etc etc. She also expects me to be home every night to do those things.
The big problem is that those things come so natural and easy for me that I don't even think about doing them. I don't mind doing stuff around the house and she IS sexy smart and funny and I don't have a problem telling her. I also like to be at my home more than anyplace else...so not coming home and doing things is rough for me =D
I am a physical touch, words of affirmation kind of guy so anything the goes that way would mean a lot for me. We talked yesterday about what we were going to do and we did it in a very nice restrained way. She seems to be ready to call it quits and nothing that was said really had any effect on her. She tends to change subjects a lot to totally silly things while we talk and that makes me pretty upset. An Example would be that while we where talking about our marriage she would blurt out in the middle of what I was saying things like "we need cat food!" or "don't forget to pick the baby up from daycare tomorrow!" This while I am in the middle of a heartfelt monologue and she is going off about cat food? It kills me a little inside that our marriage means so much less to her than it does to me.
I guess where I am going with that is if she would just slow down and pay some attention to the things that I say and do instead of taking me completely for granted all the time. Maybe that is not a baby step...but what can you do?
