Fish, you have had to much oxygen in your gills. In NJ it is prety straight forward what she is going to "GET". I am looking for a house but it will take a while and I am somewhat comfortable in the house. I am very dark right now. I love being around my kids and staying in the house. My kids are my whole world, I don't care about money or revenge. I care first very much for my kids and second my wife (I don't know where I fit in the priority list but it is somewhere in the middle). She is not around much anyway. I have three kids and they come first. If I can keep the tension level as low as possible thru this very difficult time that would be best. I don't want to break my wife, I think she is somewhat broken up over this very difficult desicion she is making and I need a whole mother for my lovely kids. As a matter of fact I would like to put her together again as much as possible.
Team, I will not respond to the letter or let anyone know I have read it but I am sure "they" are reading this now and know I have seen it. My initial thought was to send a note telling her(Step Mother in Law) how much I loved her, what a wonderful influence she and her family have had on my life and thank her for that. I want her to know how much I enjoyed housing her son, getting to know him, for 18 months when he was down and out and what a joy and learning expierence that was for me and my family. I wanted her to know how much I will miss them for we spent so much wonderful time with them each summer, I really enjoyed my father in law for he was like a father to me, a father that I never really had. I wanted to say I was sorry for where my W and my relationship had gone and let her and her family know that I love my W very much and will always be there for her. I do believe these people loved me very much, or at least that is what they told me as early as April 4th (my brother in law). BUT I will not write this letter because you guys said not to and my Psyc said no response what so ever would be best.
