I don't really think this is what I want. It would have to be a whole new marrage with tremendous effort on both sides. She is not willing to give this effort and does not believe that she needs to work on anything.
Hang on to this thought BT, because it will get worse before it gets better, and many times your courage will falter, then remind yourself of this, that it is HER doing, and that as she is, with her lack of commitment, you could never have a decent M.
DItto what Amy said about that letter, make it work to YOUR advantage. Stbx has said things that hurt me, but after the drama was over, I started thinking,and some things he said about me are true, and I have tried to learn from them. I'm a bit of a hot head and it is hard for me to step back and not engage, prob that's why your mil had all those suggestions for your W. Hard to talk to a hot head, keep your convos drama free, eventually she'll catch up (took me a while, it actually made me madder sometimes when he was all cool, but now I get it.)
Good luck)))))))))) You have and will keep growing as person as this ordeal unfolds, it is a trial by fire, let the fire purify you, not burn you.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
