Hope4us, it does sound like we're in the same spot. I suppose I'll probably never say never, but it's really hard for me to see how any R with her in the future would work. Which in itself is ridiculous since that isn't even a possibility at this point.
g, I think deciding on the kind of person I want to be is what is making me realize that the person W has turned into is not good for me to be in a R with. This is an extremely hard realization, but she's pursuing a career and is too willing to sacrifice a R/M along the way. I'd never make that kind of decision. I don't want to give up, and deep down I never will. But I have to really ask myself if she can EVER get past this core part of herself to be in a long-term R or if this is an ever-repeating cycle.
rop, I hear you. I'm trying to find logic as well and show my W she already is married to a great man. Nothing seems to make a difference, though. I think once she gets back in the house and has been here for some time, perhaps with OM, it'll really hit home what's happened. BTW, I see you're in the same area as me.
Hey pup. Yes, awhile ago I told her what the consequences would be, but I also said that if she pursued D I would make it amicable. That's where I'm at right now. Keep things nice and non-antagonistic while we split accounts and house and then withdraw friendship. I think she's forgotten that the last part is fast approaching.
